This past week, my partner in crime had to go out of town. I had at least five days where it was just me and the cat in our home. It got me thinking about alone time, how it helps and hinders when we get it. Too much can easily become overwhelming and too little can be stifling. It’s something I need but also something I dread.
The positives are pretty nice. Get caught up on work without anyone else around to take care of or spend time with. Binge watch favorite shows both new and old that other people may not enjoy. Take advantage of the cat’s extra cuddly nature because she’s not getting it from anybody else, in my case. Play whatever music, whenever, as loud as it goes (making sure not to upset the neighbors, of course).
Perhaps my favorite benefit of having this alone time is being able to get into that unique headspace where the focus is absolute and daydreaming wins the day. Usually I can only enter that mindset when I’m going on a walk with my headphones in. With nobody but me in the my home? I get to indulge it any time and follow whatever ideas come to mind.
Something nice always has to have drawbacks, usually when it isn’t moderated. What seemed charming before turns to sour boredom. The joy in having no one else around gives way to the longing for interaction.When fun things aren’t thrilling anymore, chores and responsibilities loom without anyone else there to help out.
The loneliness after I run out of distractions makes my thoughts wander to bad places. Insecurity crops up that I can usually hold at bay on normal days. I start to question the value of my happiness, my relationships, my achievements, my future. Stagnation often does that for me, but it’s worse when I have too much of the good thing that is time to myself.
My other half is back now and things are falling back into their normal routine. This week got a little deeper than usual, a little more pensive. I fall in the middle of the spectrum between introvert and extrovert. Can you not stand being alone for too long too? Is there no such thing as too much time away from people to you? I’d love to hear about it in the comments! :D
Brie Tart writes fantasies in which she draws the mythical from the mundane. She spends the rest of her time dabbling in languages and prepping for her next adventure.